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• At 2009.05.26 00:50, lonelywanderer2 said:

  I wish them all the luck in the world, but they may have to retreat from the spotlight before it burns them!

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• At 2009.05.26 00:52, omgitsmackie said:

  I was reading something yesterday where Kate said they are continuing the show for the sake of the children. Meaning, the money. Let ‘s also note the fact that they make $25,000-$50,000 PER EPISODE. I think after a few seasons, a new home, nanny, and loads of money… it’s time to start acting more mature than your children. When your marriage and family are both falling apart, lose the fame and fortune. That stuff never lasts.

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• At 2009.05.26 01:27, AirForceVirgin said:

  Absolutely, they should stop filming RIGHT NOW. When Alexis was talking to her dad about leaving is when my floodgates opened; my heart broke for her.

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• At 2009.05.26 01:37, December said:

  I know, me too. It really looked like Jon was crying the whole time. Fame ruins everything. Isnt it weird how we can feel so attached to people we dont know!?

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• At 2009.05.26 01:37, December said:

  Maybe they already did the right thing and put the money theyve made into funds for the kids. Life is difficult when your fame is hinged on how many children you can birth.

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• At 2009.05.26 08:18, Persiankitty said:

  I think they should stop. It was evident at the end of last season that Jon wanted to stop…Kate is just exploiting her children for money and freebies. I feel sorry for those children. They have no idea what it’s like to live a normal life without cameras constantly in your face. That can’t be good for them. I think the best thing would be to end the show, get some counseling, and get their lives properly sorted out for the sake of those children.

  I personally have already stopped watching the show and don’t intend to watch any of this season.

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• At 2009.05.26 11:53, mustardcat said:

  Its so sad when a family is ruined because of crappy paparazzi and rumours.
  I mean, she is a bitch of a wife to him, but this is no ones buisness.
  Reason number one why i would never put myself or my family in the spotlight.

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• At 2009.05.26 12:01, Myxl Dove said:

  It’s a sad commentary on society unquenchable thirst for drama at the expense of a family. This could have gone in a very different direction if they’d set boundaries from the beginning. Under normal circumstance, a couple MUST make time to invest in their relationship in order for it to thrive. This means time set apart that doesn’t involve the children, or appointments, or projects… just the two of them remembering why they fell in love and decided to have children together.

  I think that’s what was neglected in the whirlwind of activity over the last 5 seasons. Where was the value of the relationship? Why was the marriage not made a priority? If it really was about these opportunities being beneficial to the family as a whole, then more care should have been given to the foundation of the family: Jon and Kate. Instead, quality time was overshadowed by free family trips to amusement parks, book tours, and talk show appearances.

  The marriage was never nourished. Of course it was destined to die. So sad.

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• At 2009.05.26 12:35, December said:

  I agree Riis, it is terribly sad. Watching last nights episode made me sick.

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• At 2009.05.26 12:43, Jennifer said:

  While I truly congratulate Kate for the strength to keep her family going with or without Jon, I haven’t fully taken sides yet.

  On one hand, we see Kate who is the happy and healthy mother of eight who still likes to feel and look good. The only difference I saw in your before and after photos was her hair color and a couple more wrinkles around the mouth. She has had to deal with the media and her husband’s mistakes, but can still stay sane enough to plan, setup, and throw a wonderful birthday party for her sextuplets and eight of her kids’ friends. All of this was done while her husband “needed to take a couple days to himself”. Selfish bastard. She has written two books, I believe, and manages to keep her career and her children in check.

  On the other hand, we are looking at a father of eight who, if I remember what he said correctly, quit his job so that his wife could travel on her book tour. Many parents have written books, he is not the first husband or wife who has had to stay home with the kids. He is one of the few and far-between stay-at-home fathers, and he should be damn proud of it. He has to deal with the media as well which he claims to have never signed up for. Um… hello? You are doing a reality television show about you, your wife, and your eight children… have you never seen the Duggar family? The Americans we are are completely in awe of the idea of having so many children, of course you are going to get the attention. I realize that men can have women as friends, but it is the dumbest thing you can possibly do when you are out at a bar with them at all hours of the night.

  I guess after writing all of my thoughts down, I realize that I am on Kate’s side. She didn’t “ask” for eight children, the media coverage, the tabloids, or any of that crap, but she certainly has handled the best.

  I suppose Kate’s comment at the end of the episode last night sums up the situation at this point, the comment where she talked about the divorce rate of parents with multiples being higher than parents with singles. Five years ago, she could have stood and looked you in the eye and said, “We are going to beat that”. Now, they are… “in limbo”, if you will, she doesn’t know what is going to happen.

  Personally, I believe that they will end up divorcing.

  All I can say is, I look at the Duggar familly and see that they have their act together. They may not have multiples of sex, but they have 18 children (so far!). They have wonderful moral values and they have it together. Then look at Jon and Kate and their family, and you see a broken home, an unhappy mother and father. Yes, Kate drives him to the breaking point, but she is a mother of eight! My God, give the woman a break. I know that it is not fair for me to compare them to a highly publicized family in a completely different situation, but who else is there to compare them to?

  I don’t know, I wish them the best of luck, but at this point, I do not see their marriage being fixed at this point. Jon fucked up big time, he can’t take the drunken pictures of him in another woman’s car at the wee hours of the morning back. He didn’t think and he didn’t show that he really cared in the episode yesterday.

  Okay, now that I have written an entire blog posts worth of comments on your blog post, I will stop. XD

  ~Jennifer

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• At 2009.05.26 12:49, December said:

  Jennifer,
  Thank you for taking the time to write such a thought provoking comment. Dialogue with my readers is what makes me write, so thank you for that. Next, let me say that I dont blame kate or jon for their actions. Ya know, fame does weird things to people. Fame is difficult and you have to work at it every day to step outside of the spotlight. I think a big part of the failure was naivete in what was happening. Communication could have fixed it, but I thinkn you are right in saying that their marriage is likely over.

  I have watched the duggers show a couple of times and theres is more of a freak show than jon and kate. They are a large family that has decided to have that many children, jon and kate didnt. Now they are paying the price of so many children and feeling the financial stress that comes with it. I think Jon made some stupid decisions, but so did kate. I dont know, I just hope they do right both those kids.

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  • At 2009.05.26 16:44, Jennifer said:

    I guess I have a lot of opinions and like to share them. Sometimes, those opinions take forever to explain when written. XD

    I do not know if you are talking about Jon and Kate or the Duggars when you talk of financial stress, but the Duggars are actually well enough off and can afford to feed, clothe, and house their children without government help. They are able to do this through hard work and lots of effort. Owning lots of rental properties (or maybe it has something to do with trucks) doesn’t hurt either!

    Jon and Kate, while not rich by any stretch of the imagination, have a lovely new home. They could afford the IVF, so they can afford to feed, clothe, and house the children that came from that IVF. IVF is almost as expensive as the kids!

    I believe that you are correct in saying that part of the failure of their marriage was naivete, I believe on Jon’s part. I do not think that communication could have completely fixed this, but it may have helped a bit. My thing is, he went out with this woman while his wife was on the other side of the country. If that doesn’t reek of an affair, I don’t know what does.

    Yes, the Duggars chose to have 18 kids, and they may have more, but I would rather choose to have 18 kids than accidentally have 8. They are all miracles of course and I would love my children whether intended or not (I would hope so! I was an accident!).

    As you, I hope that what ever Jon and Kate decide to do, whether that be stay together and work through things or divorce and one (probably Jon) moves out permanently, I hope they constantly think of what is best for these kids.

    When my parents marriage was rocky (right after I was born, so…. 3 months into their marriage), they stayed together. Finally, after 10 years of marriage, they separated (not legally). Granted, their was much more to their marriage than Jon and Kate’s. My father was abusive and leaving was the best thing. If Jon and Kate stay together, I would be happy for them, but I would always wonder if they are just doing it for the kids.

    ~Jennifer

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• At 2009.05.27 12:05, Monica said:

  I started watching Jon and Kate quite recently, it’s so ironic how at the end of season four Kate and Jon say that they fight but they will be together forever.

  Kate treated Jon like trash (as you said), and I really can’t blame him for breaking down. Plus the fact that -he- became the “mom,” quitting his job and taking care of the kids while she lived the glamorous life of a celebrity. And she still disrespects him and takes him for granted?

  I want to watch the trainwreck, but know I shouldn’t. After every episode I just say, “poor kids.” They have such selfish parents; a television show is NEVER what is right for kids. They are exploiting their children.

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